Prayer: The Silent Stress-Reliever

You may have first learned to pray at your mother’s knee. You decided that, in times of trouble, prayer could open up a pathway to enlightenment and peace. You might have said a prayer before a big test, before showing your parents your report card, or before the final football game of the season.

There appears to be a link between prayer and healing. Medical studies have even concluded that patients who have other people to pray for them tend to fare better than those without such prayer support. Whether it’s a single prayer or a flood of prayers, it has been said that prayer can move mountains—and that is particularly true when the mountain is debilitating illness.

Because of the connection between prayer and healing, it is no surprise that a number of doctors recommend prayer and meditation as stress relievers. Prayer forces an individual to take time out, to spend some quiet time alone with one’s thoughts. Prayer also requires that a person look outward toward a Superior Being for strength and support. Prayer can enable an individual to re-gain focus and concentration so that he or she can better work through problems and therefore experience less stress.

Prayer has been shown to be a positive energy force. It makes an individual feel wanted and loved by a Higher Power. It can help to motivate a person to seek solutions rather than to simply complain about his or her problems. Prayer can enable an individual to see difficulties in a new light, which can contribute to stress reduction.

It is important to point out that prayer for stress relief can come in a variety of forms. For instance, there is spoken prayer, where an individual recites words to his or her Creator. This may be the most basic form of prayer. Whether it’s an Our Father, a prayer to the Holy Spirit, or a quick ejaculation such as “Lord, help me,” prayer opens a window to communication to the Almighty and therefore leads to feelings of comfort.

Another type of prayer is meditation. This can be a particularly effective stress-reliever. Meditation forces an individual to contemplate something other than his or her own problems, whether it’s nature, a verse of Scripture, a scene from the life of God, or some other source. The reflection can lead to quiet contemplation which can slow one’s heart beat, lower one’s blood pressure, and even lead to feelings of euphoria.

A number of 12-step recovery programs have prayer as their foundation. The appeal to a Higher Power helps an individual to put his or her problems into perspective. Prayer recognizes that the individual is not alone—that there is a greater Being guiding his or her life. Prayer, in essence, can help individuals to cope when other methods—particularly drug or alcohol use—have failed.

Surveys show that the vast majority of Americans believe in God, so prayer is not a foreign concept to them. However, many Americans haven’t prayed in years. They may be afraid of condemnation from God or from other people. They may simply not know the words they should use. They may even feel so unworthy that they cannot summon up the courage to pray.

However, one advantage to prayer is that it can be picked up quickly. If you find it difficult to pray, consider picking up a book on prayer from a bookstore or from a religious group. You might even consider joining a prayer group or Bible study group in order to enrich your prayer life. If you’re still having trouble, you might consult with a pastor to find some effective prayer strategies.

The stresses of work and home can seem overwhelming at times. As a result, a number of people find that they must take time out to pray in order to better handle the many challenges they face. Prayer is like anything else—the more you do it, the more comfortable you become doing it. Even if you don’t have a specific faith tradition, prayer can be a powerful weapon in your arsenal against stress. If you start and end your day with prayer, you may be amazed at how your stress level seems to plummet.

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Building Self Esteem

Self esteem is your own personal view of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally.  Everyone has a different view of themselves, but keeping a positive outlook will benefit you more than a negative one.  Many individuals suffer from low self esteem for a variety of reasons and need to build their self esteem in order to succeed in life.  Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else.  The same goes for self esteem.  The only person who can build up—or consequentially tear down—your self esteem is you.  Although other individuals may aide the process, the end decision is yours.

People have low esteem for a variety of reasons.  Some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance.  Others have emotional issues that have caused their self esteem to drop or feel themselves unworthy of any praise.  For whatever reasons your self esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem.  Think of self esteem like a house, if you build a stunning house on a poor foundation, the entire structure will crumble.  However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is strong and capable of holding anything, the process may be slow, but your self esteem will be built soundly. 

Many individuals look for help for their low self esteem in books or seminars.  The number of available options on the market is phenomenal, and you are sure to find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues.  Check out your local library or book store and explore their “self help” section for a book that you may find helpful.  It is quite unlikely you will find the answers to all your problems in a book, but you may find it helpful to know others are in your same boat and you are certainly not alone.  Additionally, you may wish to seek professional help in your quest to boost your self esteem.   Often, speaking with a qualified individual can help you determine the root of your problem and the necessary path you should take for the rebuilding process.  Perhaps your problems dates back to childhood, or maybe it has recently developed.  Whatever the case, a professional will be able to best determine your next step.

A main factor in self esteem is negativity.  Negative thoughts can pervade your confidence and crumble your self esteem.  If you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to best remedy the problem.  Often, individuals in a abusive relationship have their self esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth.  Similarly, a negative workplace environment can lower your self esteem with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work.  Maybe you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding him or her.  Whatever the source, distancing yourself from the negativity will help you regain your self esteem.  Strive to surround yourself with positive people.  If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you may wish to join a support group.  Similarly, there are support groups available for individuals with self image issues.  These groups will allow you to meet other individuals like yourself and provide a forum for you to sound your hopes and achievements.

However you choose to begin building your self esteem, do so today!  Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware it may take a while.  You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self esteem slipping.  Remember, you are an important and worthy person and should treat yourself as such.

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Are Your Kids Stressing You Out?

Remember the first time you saw your first-born child? You might have been amazed at her eyes, or mesmerized by the perfection of his hands. You might have dutifully recorded the first smile, the first laughs, the first steps, the first dance. He or she became the most important individual in your life. When that little person came into your world, you knew that your life had changed forever.

There is nothing quite like the joy of parenthood. It can lift your spirits on the most miserable day. It gives you a reason to rise in the morning, and a good excuse for blowing bubbles, catching fireflies, or gazing at a fireworks display. When you give your child a hug at night, you know that all is right with the universe.

However, parenthood can also be quite stressful. There are so many demands on your time, so many commitments you need to fulfill. Your responsibilities can leave you feeling anxious and frustrated. If your child is sick, or is having trouble in school, or has become involved in drug or alcohol abuse, your stress level could rise to the max.

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to eliminate the stressors associated with parenthood. They simply come with the territory. While you can guide your child, you cannot expect to control him or her, particularly when your child reaches the teenage years. Therefore, you have to learn to somehow manage the stress of parenthood before it gets the better of you.

The most important strategy you can adopt is to keep the communication going between yourself and your child, even when it becomes difficult. Your stress level will be greatly reduced if you can talk with your child, especially when something is bothering him or her. It is important for your child to know that your love is unconditional, and that he or she can turn to you at any time of the day or night. Strengthening the bond of trust can do a great deal to eliminate your stress.

Another stress-reducing tact you can take is to set aside time to spend with your child—other than helping him or her with homework. This is particularly important if you have more than one child. You need some fun time with your child—to let him or her know that you care. Plan for an afternoon of rollerskating or an evening playing checkers. You’ll find that such relaxing activities can help to alleviate your stress.

Also, it is important that you build into your day a break in the action. Have your husband or wife watch the children for ten minutes while you re-group. This is particularly important if you find yourself under so much stress that you are about to lose your temper. Give yourself a timeout—and watch your stress level drop considerably.

Mention needs to be made about the special stress that single parents feel. Theirs is a difficult lot and the pressures can be intense. That is why it is so critically important for single parents to strengthen their support systems. They need to have a parent, brother or sister, or friend they can rely on when the stress of parenting becomes overwhelming. Just having someone to talk to can be a tremendous stress-reliever. In other cases, a single parent might need someone to watch his or her children for the night so that the parent can re-group. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it is indicative of great emotional strength. If you find yourself falling apart, don’t wait for a crisis to get some assistance. If you turn to others for support, you will find that your family unit will only grow stronger.

Parenting is perhaps the single greatest responsibility a person can hold. As a result, there is a tremendous amount of stress involved. Recognizing that fact is an important part of the parenting process. Once you are attuned to stress—and the causes of it—you are more likely to be able to manage it well. It is important also for you to recognize that stress management is an on-going process—that it doesn’t happen overnight. However, with time, you can become a first-rate stress manager.

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Sickly kids with their stomach flu

Was your latest bout of the stomach flu really the stomach flu or was it some other virus that found its way into your intestines? What about your kids? They get sick and throw up all the time is it always the stomach flu? Actually, probably not. It turns out that what most of us think of as the stomach flu is really something else entirely, a gastrointestinal virus actually. The thing is that a flu is actually a respiratory illness but since everyone considers the stomach flu that horrible sickly diarrhea sickness even some doctors have started calling it the flu just so people know what they are talking about.

If you have children then you know how much this “stomach flu” can affect the way they are feeling and the way they are acting. Many kids will act up more when they are not feeling too good and in most cases the actual name of the virus they have is not the stomach flu but Rotavirus. At least in small children. This is not the only kind of stomach flu that can cause vomiting and diarrhea though, your child could be sick due to some nasty bacteria that found its way in or even some parasites. If your child is very ill for more than a couple of days or is running a fever it is always better to be safe than sorry and take your child to the doctor at once.

A lot of times parents don’t want to call the doctor about the latest bout of stomach flu running through the house but it is okay to if you are worried. That is what doctors are there for, they are there to support you and let you know what is gong on so that you don’t have to worry about it any more.

And that silly notion that the stomach flu is only supposed to last a day or so is totally off the mark. Most people stay sick with the stomach flu for days even a week, it all depends on which kind of stomach flu that you or your child gets because some are just stronger and ickier than others.

Whatever you do or don’t do when your child has the stomach flu you need to keep him or her hydrated. Lots and lots of water is going to make the stomach flu go away that much sooner and it is going to keep your child feeling better than they would with out the fluids. This is even more important if your child has diarrhea, in this cases it can get downright dangerous if your son or daughter is not getting enough water. You might want to look into getting some Pediasure, this will help with the hydration issue.

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What dreams about the back mean

The back is one of the most commonly dreamed about parts of the body, and depending on its context within the dream the back can hold a great significance.
Backs can be symbols for many things, including your strengths, burdens, attitude and standing in the world. Dreaming of a back that hurts, or a back that feels as though it is breaking, can mean the dreamer feels overwhelmed or overburdened by the events in his or her life. Thus the dream is a manifestation of feelings of being asked to do too much with too little support.
Dreaming about a back can also indicate that the dreamer is feeling undue stress or pressure, especially from an outside source. Those who are feeling overworked or pushed to hard on their jobs often dream that their back is hurting. Stress is real life can cause back problems, and psychological stress can often manifest in dreams of an aching back.
If someone in your dream world turns their back on you, it can indicate that you harbor feelings of hurt, envy or jealousy toward that person. The identify of the person who turns their back to you can be quite significant and it should be heeded. Repressed feelings of anger or resentment often manifest themselves in dreams, and the turning of a dream character’s back toward you is one of the clearest manifestations of repressed feelings of this nature.
Seeing a back in your dream, or being afraid to turn your back on a person in your dream, may also indicate that you fear a betrayal, either of a personal or professional nature. Dreaming about being afraid to turn your back to a coworker may indicate that you feel someone at work (not necessarily the person in the dream) is plotting against you. If the character you refuse to turn your back on is a friend, you may feel the betrayal of a friend. Again, the friend you fear will betray you may not be the one who appeared in the dream. Dreams are symbolic, and one friend can be a dream stand-in for another, especially if you do not want to face up to the possibility of their betraying you.
If you dream about a naked back, it can mean that you are keeping secrets from those in your life, and that you fear that those secrets could be revealed and you could be exposed. Dreams of any sort of nakedness, including an exposed back, are often manifestations of this type of fear. If you have been keeping secrets, dreaming of a naked back may mean your subconscious is telling you to come clean.

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