When we are mad, we are consuming our energy and time on negative forces that may or may not prove results. Anger is an emotion that we all have and when we use anger to our advantage, it often takes us further than blowing up in an uproar. Anger that strikes, hits, punches, curses, assaults emotions and so forth are negative anger that causes more problems. Dealing with emotions and anger is never easy when we have probable cause to become ignited. When others hurt our feelings, attack our intellect, and take advantage of us it can upset anyone. We are facing problems that include, anger, prejudice, mental illnesses, substance abuse and crime everyday. However, negative anger can only hurt and rarely help anyone. For example, we can look back on September 11 when a group of men acting out on anger affected the entire world. Instead of resolving their problems, they added more problems to everyone’s life. See when you expose uncontrolled anger you are not only hurting your self you are hurting other people. Anger is increasingly causing more problems for our entire world. Since we are dealing with terrorist, serial murders, child and spouse abuse and other types of violence, we know that the world is heading for disaster unless someone comes up with the master plan to deal with all the anger surfacing the earth. We can see anger has interrupted many lives and continues as we engage in wars. We have professional leaders that are unable to deal with anger since when a problem occurs violence is the ultimate result. Looking back at September 11, we can see that anger played a large role on both sides. The terrorist from another country was mad and acted on their anger taking revenge and all this was based on a belief. The American government retaliated and now we are still fighting almost six years later and little was resolved. What if the leaders were able to negotiate and talk out their problems with each other? If both sides would have shown more responsible and maturity anger would not have caused the many problems it did in this event. We can ask is there a way that the problem could have been dealt with. Yes, there probably was, but anger took control. We can also look back in history and review the other wars that plagued our system. The wars always affect us all in some way. The anger that is issued by one party or group played a large role in everyone’s life. It affects the economy, the environment, parents, teachers, children and anyone that is touched by anger. If we are going to get ahead in life, we have to find a way that deals with anger on all individualities. Anger is a sign of mental illness, substance abuse and common society. Some of us act out violently while others of us find a more suitable way to deal with our problems. If we use anger positively we are sure to have a much more productive life. In a way, we all rely on each other whether it is directly or indirectly. If you have a problem with anger, there are anger management classes to rely on, or mental health experts waiting to help you deal with your anger. If you have substance abuse issues that contribute to anger then alcohol and drug classes are free of charge to help you learn how to deal with your stress and anger. The people that attend most these meetings have their own problems and have found a way to deal with them more effectively. Anger rules the world at this point since we are all touched by the violence that plagues our system, but if we all take the first step to dealing with our emotions and anger then our lives will benefit us all. If you know someone that is dealing with anger show the person some patients and help him or her find the help they need before it is too late. Remember negative anger consumes our time, burns our energy and often wastes our money.

Controlling your anger is not always easy. It is important when a person has anger problems to try to talk to the person. Avoid loosing your temper yourself since this will only cause another problem. When a person has anger issues then that person puts others in danger and if we loose our control then we have a seriously chaotic situation that could lead to violence. If you have a child that has anger issues, it makes since to keep the chain of communication open. Sit your child down and talk with him or her attempting to find out what is making the child frustrated. Do not wait until the child is out of control and then try to talk. This only fuses the person often. Wait until the child cools down and then ask him or her what they feel caused the interruption. You might want to search your own area of contact with the child to see if anything you said or did made the child angry. This will help you to avoid this the next time you and your child are together. My child had anger problems and he was told to take a walk or a cool down period before addressing the issues. Of course, my child had mental illnesses underlying the anger and this contributed to the problems we endured. Self-talk and talking is always helpful when we are dealing with anger. Try to find the source of the anger by talking through the problem. Some recommend the angered person counts to 10 or 15, however if there is an underlying cause then this does not always work. The best solution is finding what works for you. It is also recommended that the child play a game, such as PlayStation, Nintendo or other game console and play until your anger ceases. Again, this works for some of us, but not all of us. A great technique I found valuable was drawing the source of your anger if possible. Writing, self-talk, talk, art, and music has proven in my experience to be more effective verses the other types of techniques offered. Exercise is also great. Running around the block, riding a bike, or going for a walk has proven helpful for eliminating anger for some individuals. Dance is great for relieving anger. Dance is a natural source of getting in touch with your feeling. If you ever wondered what the term she’s got soul means, well when you dance, feel the music and adhere to the steps of the beat then you got soul. There is nothing like the boogie fever since it relieves stress, tension, anxiety and makes your body and mind feel good since you did something constructive. If you must vent your frustration on something, get a punching bad, or else beat the heck out of your pillow. Some great advice came from health fitness experts when they advice me to enlist my child in Kick Boxing, Boxing, or Wrestling. This is said to teach the person control. Karate is another recommended source for helping a person deal with anger. The problem is when we are dealing with anger; we must get the other person to cooperate. Since most persons angered will find an excuse why the techniques provided to them does not work, it is important to get them to understand their anger, the problems and how the techniques can benefit them if they apply them selves. Crying is good for relieving stress and anger also; however, this is not always suitable for everyone. My children were raised understanding that it is ok to cry regardless of gender. Therefore, we need to teach our children regardless of gender that it is ok to express your emotions and feelings. That is not a disgrace; rather it is a developing of character strategy that works best for us all. Emotions when suppressed will create more problems for the people in society; therefore, it is important to address your feelings and emotions when they arise. Dealing with the problems when they arise is the best solution for dealing with emotions. Controlling your anger is not always easy, but it is possible.

Dealing with anger is never easy, since the people are always dealing out problems and reasons for conflict. We have to deal with increases, deflations, war, violence, crime, and everyday common responsibilities with continuous interruptions. There is not one person in a forsaken world that has not gotten mad at some point. Anger is an emotion we all deal with. Anger comes in many forms, but the root of anger is hatred as a result of a lie. This is true. When the first man and woman were created on the earth, the first noted problem was a serpent in the form of Satan that lied to, deceiving the woman. Once the lie took off, the world began suffering many problems, including violence, murder, war, shortages, pests, weather disasters and so forth. Since the first lie, the world has gone chaotic and continues to worsen as the years roll by. We can examine how a lie can instigate anger by looking at one individual. The person engaged in criminal activities, including stealing, writing bad checks, and selling prescription medications. Now this person had to work lying into the picture, since she felt that her behaviors and actions were only a source of survival. Therefore, she was lying covering up her crimes. As the years grew the person became anger and unmanageable as a result of her behaviors, beliefs, thinking, and so forth. The person began acting out as if any uncontrolled anger person would act. This included, under minding others, insulting others verbally and physically, threatening, belittling, mocking, and so forth. The woman was diagnosed with mental illnesses, including Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and Bipolar. She also had health issues, including diabetes. Now we can look at all the aspects of the person’s anger, yet we can see if we search deep enough that her lying, which caused paranoia was the basis of her behavior problems. Many persons in the world have a problem with anger. Many of the persons with posttraumatic stress disorder often act out angrily reacting to a flashback. This is right! Persons with posttraumatic stress disorder often repress their emotions. When they are violent or angered it is often because they are fighting the source that caused their trauma and not the person in their present. Therefore, we do not see this as the problem of the woman’s anger, since she did not show signs of this in my presence. Therefore, I would exclude posttraumatic stress disorder, or at least minimize the symptoms. We can look at diabetes, since this illness affects the nerves. The shortage of insulin creates additional problems, and many with diabetes will become upset for little or no reason at all. However, most will not act out angrily assaulting or hurting another. Therefore, we can see that emotional problems are underlying the diabetes when they become aggressive. We can also look at the crimes committed and see that we have a serious behavioral problem that leads to lying. Therefore, when we look at this individual we have to deal with the underlying problems to stop her from lying and moving ahead, avoiding anger interruptions. Now, the person is in denial, which means that until the legal system makes her take steps to management, then she probably will not get help herself. In addition, even if the criminal system will force her to get help, it probably will not work, since her denial has been in existing for more than twenty-five years. Now we are dealing with a real anger problem, since the behaviors are life long, which means extensive therapy is needed. Anger is an emotion, but when it interferes with another person’s life, it is a serious problem. This person is not hurting one person, she is hurting everyone since when she steals or write bad checks, society pays with tax increases, as well as other increases. One of the biggest problems I noticed with this type of person is the system and society will allow continuing; only addressing it when someone is caught. Once the person is released then the person continues again. This is a chain of out of control management and anger.

The mind is a mysterious atmosphere was everyone has a different source of thinking. We all have our problems, some of us more so than others do. Most of us have emotions, which include sadness, anger, joy, and so forth. The trick is learning to deal with it in our own way. Some techniques suggested are logs. Logs are a recorded list of emotions, feelings, expressions, solutions, and problems. After sitting around for about a half hour or hour we can look back over our log to see what ignited our fire. It is important to recognize the problem and learn a strategy to deal with it, or else learn to cope with the problem in your own way. If possible, you can look at both sides. For example, if Jack angered you then you want to record what Jack to make you upset. A great approach for addressing the problem is confronting Jack in a mild manner if Jack in fact did something justifying your madness. Another way to deal with anger is talking you through the madness. Why am I mad? What trip my trigger? What was I thinking when I blew up? Why can I deal with this problem? This is self-talk and it works wonders. Talking to a trusted individual is also great for dealing with uncontrolled anger. The problem is you need someone with mental health knowledge. If you are talking to a friend and he or she says something that makes you anger then another problem is in the making. It is important to try hard to control your emotions when you are talking. This will help you to learn self-control if you practice this each time that you talk. A great solution is exercise. Exercise has proven to enhance health, the mind, and the body, as well as controlling emotions. If you see that you are about to loose control, take a walk. Go around the block, or even walk three or four blocks. The more you exercise the more it helps. You might also want to go for a bike ride. Paddle until your anger blows through the wind. Laughing is another great remedy for relieving anger. If you are angry, try to look at the situation with a sense of humor. For example, I was ready to blow up the world at one point due to an incident and injustice. When I was dealing with it, I literally wrote funnies on paper and laughed uncontrollably at the way I put things in perspective. The truth is if you do not control anger, it will control you. If you do not want to exercise, create logs, write, or laugh, then think of this: if you do not take control of your anger one day you are going to blow up at someone and this person is either going to attack back and may be more dangerous than you are, and/or you will be sitting at the local country jail searching for a resource to bail out. Once you get your buns in the criminal system, it is difficult to get out. You might pay your fines, spend some time in jail, hang around the courts for a while, and have someone else telling you what to do while on probation…this might last for a few months or years. Now, when you get your mug shot, fingerprints, and other reports you will see during the course of your life that others will constantly judge you as a violent source to society. This can affect your job, family, and life in whole. Now if anger is a problem then you need to sit down and take a look at the consequences of your behaviors. If you fail to see consequences then you are in big trouble. Anger is an emotion that we all share. It is how we deal with anger that makes or breaks our lives and controls our level of success. If you have anger issues you might want to read the many reports that are available, analyze the scientific research for answers, and support to your uncontrolled anger problems.

When emotions are, flaring then we are subject to deal with uncontrolled anger. Anger is an emotion that we all deal with. Some of us handle problems assertively while others are aggressive. Anger either makes our life successful or makes our life miserable. If you are an angry person, you might want to get help, since your life is subject to chaos. Anger management offers great courses to angry people helping them to cope with their emotions. The psychotherapists will help you to get in touch with your emotions by talking through the clutters in your mind. You will enjoy a group of people similar to your self and listen to the many problems these people face every day. When you are socializing and hearing problems others face you might find that your problem is not as big as it seemed. Problems are solvable and anger management can teach you to find resources that help you to deal with your problems. Triggers often interrupt emotions causing anger to surface. Anger management classes are designed and ready to help you to understand your triggers, how to avoid them, and how to deal with them when they erupt. If you are subject to anger, you can look back at the many problems you faced to see how you dealt with them, and what the consequences of your anger were. If you see that your consequences are succeeding your anger problems then you know that you will need a new course in life. Review the situations individually to see if there was something, you could have changed during the action. Review the problem to see if something you did added to your burden. After you are done reviewing and see that your anger caused more problems for you then you can learn some techniques that help you to cope with your emotions and reduce your problems. An effective approach is dealing with diaphragmatic breathing. If you are hyperactive ventilating when you are angry you are only intensify the situation. Therefore, you must learn breathing techniques that help control your breathing. When you feel worried, stressed, and angry it is helpful to slow down a take a few deep breaths before dealing with the problem. You might want to consider your thinking. If you feel that one problem leads to another and there is nothing short of surviving through the issues then you are a negative thinker. Sure, one problem can lead to another problem. If you prepare your self for by including resources and searching your mind, you might see a way out of the problems as they occur. Let us take a look at a woman that has a series of problems and see how she manages the problems. The woman has a teenage child and was living in a dangerous environment, which included criminal behaviors. The woman knew she had to remove her child and self from this environment, yet she knows she does not have enough funds to rent another home. Therefore, she is homeless once she leaves the environment. Rather than floundering in her emotions, she takes control and calls a friend asking for help. The friend comes as quickly as possible and provides her child and self a temporarily home. She knows that she has to move from this environment soon, so she reviews her mind and considers all resources available to her. Now, she has pride and a making a little money through her own home business but she calls the Department of Social Services and explains her situation. The program instructs her to find a home within her means and then contact them as soon as the place is available. She is told that she will be placed on an emergency list for the homeless and now has hope that her problems will reduce. Now, before she left the first environment there was a violent outburst from the first party. Instead of retaliating, she controlled her anger and walked past the woman without speaking a word. Now if she had retaliated she would be in jail since the woman owned the home where she stayed and then she would have a bigger problem than homeless. When emotions are flaring and anger is out of control stay in charge!