When we are mad, we are consuming our energy and time on negative forces that may or may not prove results. Anger is an emotion that we all have and when we use anger to our advantage, it often takes us further than blowing up in an uproar. Anger that strikes, hits, punches, curses, assaults emotions and so forth are negative anger that causes more problems. Dealing with emotions and anger is never easy when we have probable cause to become ignited. When others hurt our feelings, attack our intellect, and take advantage of us it can upset anyone. We are facing problems that include, anger, prejudice, mental illnesses, substance abuse and crime everyday. However, negative anger can only hurt and rarely help anyone. For example, we can look back on September 11 when a group of men acting out on anger affected the entire world. Instead of resolving their problems, they added more problems to everyone’s life. See when you expose uncontrolled anger you are not only hurting your self you are hurting other people. Anger is increasingly causing more problems for our entire world. Since we are dealing with terrorist, serial murders, child and spouse abuse and other types of violence, we know that the world is heading for disaster unless someone comes up with the master plan to deal with all the anger surfacing the earth. We can see anger has interrupted many lives and continues as we engage in wars. We have professional leaders that are unable to deal with anger since when a problem occurs violence is the ultimate result. Looking back at September 11, we can see that anger played a large role on both sides. The terrorist from another country was mad and acted on their anger taking revenge and all this was based on a belief. The American government retaliated and now we are still fighting almost six years later and little was resolved. What if the leaders were able to negotiate and talk out their problems with each other? If both sides would have shown more responsible and maturity anger would not have caused the many problems it did in this event. We can ask is there a way that the problem could have been dealt with. Yes, there probably was, but anger took control. We can also look back in history and review the other wars that plagued our system. The wars always affect us all in some way. The anger that is issued by one party or group played a large role in everyone’s life. It affects the economy, the environment, parents, teachers, children and anyone that is touched by anger. If we are going to get ahead in life, we have to find a way that deals with anger on all individualities. Anger is a sign of mental illness, substance abuse and common society. Some of us act out violently while others of us find a more suitable way to deal with our problems. If we use anger positively we are sure to have a much more productive life. In a way, we all rely on each other whether it is directly or indirectly. If you have a problem with anger, there are anger management classes to rely on, or mental health experts waiting to help you deal with your anger. If you have substance abuse issues that contribute to anger then alcohol and drug classes are free of charge to help you learn how to deal with your stress and anger. The people that attend most these meetings have their own problems and have found a way to deal with them more effectively. Anger rules the world at this point since we are all touched by the violence that plagues our system, but if we all take the first step to dealing with our emotions and anger then our lives will benefit us all. If you know someone that is dealing with anger show the person some patients and help him or her find the help they need before it is too late. Remember negative anger consumes our time, burns our energy and often wastes our money.
Courts are often misconstrued on criminals, and it often leads to destruction rather than recovery.
One man was taking to court for violent behavior, simply because another grabbed his girlfriend in an inappropriate on an area of her body, and he responded out of courtesy to her and to his traditions. Once he went to court, placed on probation, jail time, courts and fines, and after being evaluated by a professional, he claims that the professional said, “He did not have anger problems.” The man has a history of alcoholism, drugs, and child abuse. The counselor told him that he did not have anger problems; rather he had a problem with alcohol and drugs. Another source claims that he had issues, and they were never addressed appropriately, and that anger management classes only made him angrier. The problem with the first guy was that he was fighting for respect since this is how he was raised, and the courts ignored him. They focused on the money rather than understanding what he was dealing with and over dramatized the entire case. This happens every single time that a person goes to court. The courts automatically assume that a person has a problem once they commit a crime. The first man has never acted out violently in his history unless someone disrespected someone he loved. Therefore, he does not have anger problems; he has a problem that goes deeper than anger. The system is nothing more than a gimmick to earn money, and often will take full advantage of a single mistake. The man was an ex-marine that was taught to KILL and to fight, and yet he is not the one with anger. All he ever wanted was for people to leave him alone, and leave alone the ones that he loves. That is all he asks for, and so the ones with anger problem, are not the ones always sitting in an office being evaluated. Most anger problems are stemmed from another source and often this is ignored. They often do not see what the other person did to anger or provoke the person involved in the assault. Therefore, it is always placed on the victim rather than the perpetrator, and this would piss anyone off. The files of Cass County Michigan alone (Corrupted Police and Justice Systems) has hit the charts abroad the Internet, and this is often ignored, while the so-called criminals are hit with persecution for the rest of their lives. The problem then is not the individuals suffering with anger issues, it is the system that is ignoring the truths and subjecting the perpetrators and victims to control. After carefully evaluating the first man spoken of in this article, I see that the person does not have an anger problem; rather he has symptoms far more complicated than what anger others have to offer. Let’s take a close look at anger and what it really means, before we diagnose another individual of anger problems. The terms as illustrated in Webster Dictionary are “to make angry,” and/or “to become anger.”
As you can see, ANGER is a source triggered by another source. (This is by no means an excuse for anyone to abuse another person, as no one has that right). In most cases of Domestic Violence, the perpetrator has a serious mental illness that often includes Anger, but other circumstances are involved. This person was not a mental health issue, rather a victim of circumstance, and needs to address is denial of alcoholism. Anger management is controlling a source that is causing trouble. If you want to control sources, you need to address the many issues involved. There are many types of people in the world with various diagnoses, and often it is ignored. The controversy lies between acceptance and denial and someone has to deal with it, yet few ever do. The problem then is alcohol is the underlying source of anger in some cases, but the overlying problem is deeper than what most really want to address. Anger is a problem but to understand the source you MUST address all underlying and overlying triggers and problems that are involved to deal with the problem.
When we are angry, we often find a way to deal with the stress that anger brings. Some of us however cannot find a way to deal with our anger. A faithful strategy I used to deal with anger is to handle the situation when the opportunity arises. If someone does something to hurt me, it depends on the situation but I got resources, therefore I put those to good use. When I feel sometimes, I go inside my mind, find a restful area, and talk to myself. I often find humor whether it is ironic, ridiculous dark, humorous, or what have you. Anything that makes me laugh often relieves the stress my body and mind feels when I am angry. Blowing up at the source that made us angry is not the answer. This only creates a more difficult problem. Therefore, if you have a problem with anger you might want to go to anger management where psychotherapy is available. Anger management helps a person to get in contact with his or her mind. It helps them to see that anger is the root of emotions that are out of control. It also helps the person to see that anger can be controlled if you learn behavior strategies to modify your attitude. If you have problems with anger, you might have an underlying situation, which includes mental illness, alcohol or drugs. Do you drink heavily? If so this affects the body, mind, and will make it difficult to manage your anger when you are threatened or feel as though someone let you down. If you are taking drugs, you may want to consider that drugs can cause great harm to both your mind and body and enhance your mood, making it easier for you to explode when you are anger. Drugs never help, they only cause more harm. If you have mental illness, you might want to consult with an expert in the mental health industry to learn more about your problem. Symptoms are a part of mental illness and anger is one of the many signs that mental illness includes. Not every personality disorder has anger problems, but many of the mental ill do. The symptoms may include inability to comprehend, which often causes anger to erupt since the person has difficulty understanding the person speaking with them. Another symptom in mental illness that causes anger is voices outside the head. If you are hearing those negative voices telling you that someone is going to kill you, or instructing you to kill someone you love it can drive a person mad. Hallucination is another symptom in mental illness that can make a person deranged or angry. When you are seeing things that do not exist, yet appear real, it makes you angry inside when the symptoms subside and you find that you are out in left field. Delusions can also trick the emotions and make us feel out of control. When a person does not have control of his or her being, it often frustrates the person, making them angry. Anger is also created when person’s behaviors are criminal, or potentially criminal oriented. If you have a compulsive lying habit then it often degrades your being and makes you angry. You might blow up at someone for simple words, but the source that made you angry is no one but your self. Likewise, if you are thief it is also degrading and will only dehumanize and deprive you of the ability to control your emotions. If you are experiencing any of the listed sources of anger then anger management is a great start to dealing with your emotions and anger. Anger management is a form of psychotherapy that offers you the tools to learn behavior and control anger. The systematic problem can help you to learn to associate with others without blowing your fuse. If you have difficulty, speaking up then anger management will guide you through the steps to recovery. You will address your problems, learn how to manage them, and learn how to function as a healthy person in society. Anger is good, but when it becomes a problem then anger management is the solution to success.
We can review anger carefully to learn the signs; it can help us to find a way to avoid uncontrolled anger. Some of the signs are noticeable when we are anger. For example when your body feels tense, your stomach is in knots, or your mind is cluttered then you are on the verge of anger. Anger affects us all in many ways, but for the most part when we are angry, we feel emotions tangling, tension, knots, and stress in our way. In this article, I am going to tell some real life stories that will help you to see the results of anger both negative and positive. One man with a grandiosity personality became angry one day. When his mind told him that some people are a problem that needs to be removed him influenced thousands of others by his anger and lead them to kill more than a million innocent people. This man was Adolf Hitler. Now we know this man was mentally deranged, but underneath that troubled mind was a source of anger so extreme that it affected billions of people for years to come. This is negative anger that leads us into a war and this was the result of this man’s angry mind. A woman walks in the door hoping that someone can help her find a home for her two small children that currently are out on the streets with her. She goes to a public service that offers hope to the needy. When she arrives, she learns that the resources were drained when the flood caused a major disaster. She is referred to other resources that may be able to assist her. Now she is not only thinking about herself, rather she has these two small children to take care of and find them a home. Now the woman has no family and the children are fatherless. We can see a serious problem in front of us. How does she handle this situation? Rather than blowing up and throwing fuel on the fire she thanks the people nicely that just rejected her. She follows up by going to the other resources mentioned to her. Still no hope, so she continues along her journey loosing hope every step of the way when suddenly a woman walks up to her and says hey, I am looking for a roommate. Would you happen to know anyone? The woman overjoyed tells the woman of her predicament and finds relief once the move in is finished. All good things come to those that wait. Now if the woman would have acted out of anger during all this rejections she might have never meet the woman in need of a roommate because her mind would have been in shackles sitting someone on a corner refusing to see a way out. I like to use more extreme causes when it comes to anger. Most people that have anger problems neglect to see how anger can change their life for the worst forever, or enhance their success. Some us blow up in a rage when our buttons are pushed and may feel regret after the assaults are made, but overall it does nothing but causes harm. When you apologize this is great, but it is even better when you take charge of your emotions and anger. Rarely a situation does not have a solution for a problem. However if you are sitting in prison under someone else’s control you may never find the answers to your problems. Continuing we can see that anger has a root and often the root produces symptoms. When we are alert to our emotions, we are in control of our anger. If you feel like you cannot take anymore or if you feel the world is, tumbling down on you it is time to ask a trustworthy source for help, since you may be on the verge of exploding when your anger attacks. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. It is the people that do not get help that are in serious trouble and prone to anger. Finally, we see anger in two different lights make your anger positive.
There are many experts claiming to have all the answers for controlling anger. The problem is not all persons with anger act out in the same way. Anger is something we all experience in our lifetime. The problem is not all of us can deal with our emotions appropriately. Some of us when angered will confront the person that upset us, while others will wait for a time before going back to the person and confronting them, only exploding while doing so. Anger is an emotion that explodes when someone frightens us, threatens us, betrays, obstructs, disregards us, or harms us in some way. When this happens, a person will often strike out or ignore the problem until it burns deep in the person’s soul and causes an explosion. We can see that if someone is attempting to harm us our natural instincts tell us to fight. If the possibility is available for us to leave the presence of the human being without harm, then we often resort to this method first. However, in most cases, we are not able to walk away then it is time to pull out the sword and battle. If we do not have, anger pushes us to protect then we are in a world of trouble. It takes a real person to walk away from a fight, but what if your back is against the wall. How are you going to handle it? Effective talk can go a long way in a fight. If you know how to use your words with assertiveness, you can walk away from most battles. However, if you do not have this ability your fist better be up and ready to attack. One of the best solutions I found for avoiding both anger and harm is to remove myself permanently from bad influences and environments. This not only prevents problem it also helps me to function accordingly in life. The problem is we cannot always avoid persons that disrespect us, betray us, cheat us, lie to us, or even threaten us. Therefore, we must learn a way to use our anger positive, rather than continue a way that makes matters worse. We can see all the elements that invoke anger when we travel, at home, at school and so forth. There is no way to escape problems, or people that annoy us, therefore, we are a system of angry people needing anger management skills. When a person is angry, his physical tells him or her that a threat is made against the being. The body will respond, acting out with accelerated palpitations of the heart, the pupils flare, the breath increases or decreases, and our tone is louder when we speak. The body will tell us with dry mouth and tension of the body that we are mad. If two people engage, in an angry moment, it is best to step back and deal with the problem once you have both calmed down. If a person has angry issues it is, best to tell the person I will talk with you later, since this is going nowhere. Try to use positive talk to calm the person, rather than joining in the heated dispute. If the person has, a problem with anger the last thing you want is to get hurt mentally, verbally, or physically. Anger depends on the person’s attitude, and if that person is negative, you can bet his or her level of anger will be out of control. A person with anger problems will often attack by insulting you verbally, striking you physically, or mentally belittling you. If you are dealing with this type of person, you will need to learn techniques to deal with this person, unless you plan to leave them behind. Most of this type of person views the world as a source of evil. The entire world around them is responsible for the person feeling angry, since the actions forced them to think this way. In light, this person is correct to a degree; however, he or she has not learned how to manage their anger. When a person feels like this, they often neglect seeing that their success is a failure in many cases because of their behaviors. Therefore, we need them to see that anger management is controlling anger.