Courts are often misconstrued on criminals, and it often leads to destruction rather than recovery.
One man was taking to court for violent behavior, simply because another grabbed his girlfriend in an inappropriate on an area of her body, and he responded out of courtesy to her and to his traditions. Once he went to court, placed on probation, jail time, courts and fines, and after being evaluated by a professional, he claims that the professional said, “He did not have anger problems.” The man has a history of alcoholism, drugs, and child abuse. The counselor told him that he did not have anger problems; rather he had a problem with alcohol and drugs. Another source claims that he had issues, and they were never addressed appropriately, and that anger management classes only made him angrier. The problem with the first guy was that he was fighting for respect since this is how he was raised, and the courts ignored him. They focused on the money rather than understanding what he was dealing with and over dramatized the entire case. This happens every single time that a person goes to court. The courts automatically assume that a person has a problem once they commit a crime. The first man has never acted out violently in his history unless someone disrespected someone he loved. Therefore, he does not have anger problems; he has a problem that goes deeper than anger. The system is nothing more than a gimmick to earn money, and often will take full advantage of a single mistake. The man was an ex-marine that was taught to KILL and to fight, and yet he is not the one with anger. All he ever wanted was for people to leave him alone, and leave alone the ones that he loves. That is all he asks for, and so the ones with anger problem, are not the ones always sitting in an office being evaluated. Most anger problems are stemmed from another source and often this is ignored. They often do not see what the other person did to anger or provoke the person involved in the assault. Therefore, it is always placed on the victim rather than the perpetrator, and this would piss anyone off. The files of Cass County Michigan alone (Corrupted Police and Justice Systems) has hit the charts abroad the Internet, and this is often ignored, while the so-called criminals are hit with persecution for the rest of their lives. The problem then is not the individuals suffering with anger issues, it is the system that is ignoring the truths and subjecting the perpetrators and victims to control.  After carefully evaluating the first man spoken of in this article, I see that the person does not have an anger problem; rather he has symptoms far more complicated than what anger others have to offer. Let’s take a close look at anger and what it really means, before we diagnose another individual of anger problems.  The terms as illustrated in Webster Dictionary are “to make angry,” and/or “to become anger.”
As you can see, ANGER is a source triggered by another source. (This is by no means an excuse for anyone to abuse another person, as no one has that right). In most cases of Domestic Violence, the perpetrator has a serious mental illness that often includes Anger, but other circumstances are involved. This person was not a mental health issue, rather a victim of circumstance, and needs to address is denial of alcoholism. Anger management is controlling a source that is causing trouble. If you want to control sources, you need to address the many issues involved. There are many types of people in the world with various diagnoses, and often it is ignored. The controversy lies between acceptance and denial and someone has to deal with it, yet few ever do. The problem then is alcohol is the underlying source of anger in some cases, but the overlying problem is deeper than what most really want to address.  Anger is a problem but to understand the source you MUST address all underlying and overlying triggers and problems that are involved to deal with the problem.

Anger is stemmed from hate and when it is not dealt with the person often acts out aggressive putting self and others at risk. Persons acting out in anger often have underlying issues that is missed, or else has not been diagnosed. It could be relatively to alcohol and/or drug abuse, as well as mental illnesses. Often the individuals have difficulty dealing with their emotions and feelings and will attack out of anger. The root of this frustration is often rooted somewhere in the persons past. The individual may have been abused as a child, underdeveloped or severely neglected. Another underlying cause may contribute to negative influences. For example if a child has been bullied and no one handles the situation, he or she will probably develop anger and it will continue to grow. There are classes developed for people that have inability to control their behaviors or anger. The classes are designed to get the patient to open up and address his or her feelings and emotions, and then come to an area of management. The classes often have other individuals with the same level of uncontrolled anger and together they work to get along with others. Often a trained therapist will conduct the classes and deal with each other in a group-oriented atmosphere allowing each person to explain his or her problems and situation. The therapist will often work to address each individual, sometimes making them angry in an effort to find the root of the problem. When therapist is dealing with hate and anger, they must stay alert since potential risks are involved. If a person is triggered and anger is the issue, the person may become violent. Violence is something we all want to avoid; therefore, to deal with the patient therapist must enter with caution. Again, there are underlying issues to address; therefore, we must look at all aspects of the person’s behaviors, thinking patterns, logic, and so forth. If the person is illustrating illogical thinking then it is obvious we must get the person on track. Of course, the patient may have cause for the anger, yet we must teach him or her how to deal with it in a more suitable method. We can look at the thinking patterns to determine if mental illness is the underlying source of the person’s disability. If mental illness is involved, we want to send the person to a qualified mental health expert for evaluation. However if alcohol and/or drugs are involved when want to send the person to drug and alcohol classes. By combining mental health expertise, anger management classes and/or drug and alcohol classes, we can work toward recovery on the level of problem. After a series of treatment, it might be that the patient will also need medications to control his or her anger. Often when a person has anger issues and is allowed to talk through their problems they often find relief and can move forward into a positive light. Anger is a miserable home to habitat, therefore someone is suffering as a result and everyone is at risk. None of us really wants to undergo pain and suffering. When a person has anger issues, it often affects the central nervous system, the mind, body and so forth. This adds additional risks to the person suffering and if not addressed us are looking at more cash and time to deal with additional problems. If you notice, your child is showing aggressive behaviors it is important to get help immediately. Most parents care for their children and often notice when a child is behaving inappropriately and often. It may be that the child has a mental illness from hereditary is in need of immediate help before other symptoms develop. If you have a teenage child that is, showing aggressive behaviors you might want to sit him and her down and ask what is going on at school? If your child had not illustrated these types of behaviors before then something is going on. Before it gets out of hand, help him or her to learn to manage their anger. Life is too short to let your child go unnoticed.

Anger is an emotion, but when a person is ignited with anger and explodes, then you are looking at one of the signs of mental illness. Most persons that endure igniting anger will confuse or misunderstand others when they are speaking. You can merely ask them what they expect of you when they are mad and they will flare up at you. Often this type of person will ignore your pleas to compromise and blow up in a rage avoiding every word you say. They often make a mountain out of a molehill and will go to all lengths to convince you they did nothing wrong. Everyone is wrong, but the person kicking, striking, cursing, belittling, and so forth. No matter what you do, you can never when if a person is angry. In other instances, an angry person may allow others to take advantage of them, and in this instance, the angry person is often correct. It depends on the person, but we all handle anger differently. Experts believe that angry persons often close their anger inside allowing it to develop into an explosive state, and this is often due to depression or anxiety that is instigating the anger. Anger is often dealt with on passive/aggressive levels, meaning that a person can vent their anger toward others in appropriate aptitudes, such as fighting a corrupted system through protest. Others may avoid issues as they arise, and drag the issues to the point of out of control. Other angry people take their hurt out on other people. For example if you were reduced to a lower position by a friend you might wait until you get home and take the emotions out on your family. This is a common form of anger. It is also common to justify a behavior when a person acts out inappropriately. Stress is another leading cause of anger outbursts. Most times when we are stressed, we feel excessive tension build, irritable, frustrated and so forth. The elements combined are enough to make anyone burst in an uproar. When a person is stress they will feel angry at the world around them, sad at the way they feel, and nervous as a result of standing on shaky grounds. Most of us endure stress or have different stressors in our life, including family problems, society issues, and financial obligations. We are all pressured everyday by someone in the system. Therefore, stress is one of the leading causes of anger management. It is not uncommon for individuals to snap at their families, avoid responsibilities from time to time, and even have problems going to sleep at night. This is all a part of life and stress. Persons that grieve over a death, or suffering from a handicap may often find it difficult to manage their anger. There are all sorts of reasons that we all express anger. Some of us will avoid situations to eliminate anger outbursts. For example, a person with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder has symptoms including flashbacks, which makes them a prime candidate to explode. These types of individuals will often stay out of society, or completely away from people, including family, friends and so on to avoid conflict. For PTSD or posttraumatic stress survivors this is often best since most people in society have no responsibility when it comes to other peoples feelings. Regardless of the situation and why the anger problem exists, it is a mechanism we all have to understand. It is ok to be angry with someone that harms, disrupts our lives, threatens, belittle, or hurts us in any way. It is not ok to beat the person up, or brutally attack the person verbally or mentally, unless that person is promoting a fight. In most instances, we can avoid conflict; however, there are times that we cannot escape. The solution then is learning to address problems in a tactful manner to avoid difficult situations that lead to more problems. When we ignite anger we never know what the results may return, therefore, it is best to let anger go and control the emotions that anger us all. It makes sense to walk with caution through life, since anger can kill.

Controlling your anger is not always easy. It is important when a person has anger problems to try to talk to the person. Avoid loosing your temper yourself since this will only cause another problem. When a person has anger issues then that person puts others in danger and if we loose our control then we have a seriously chaotic situation that could lead to violence. If you have a child that has anger issues, it makes since to keep the chain of communication open. Sit your child down and talk with him or her attempting to find out what is making the child frustrated. Do not wait until the child is out of control and then try to talk. This only fuses the person often. Wait until the child cools down and then ask him or her what they feel caused the interruption. You might want to search your own area of contact with the child to see if anything you said or did made the child angry. This will help you to avoid this the next time you and your child are together. My child had anger problems and he was told to take a walk or a cool down period before addressing the issues. Of course, my child had mental illnesses underlying the anger and this contributed to the problems we endured. Self-talk and talking is always helpful when we are dealing with anger. Try to find the source of the anger by talking through the problem. Some recommend the angered person counts to 10 or 15, however if there is an underlying cause then this does not always work. The best solution is finding what works for you. It is also recommended that the child play a game, such as PlayStation, Nintendo or other game console and play until your anger ceases. Again, this works for some of us, but not all of us. A great technique I found valuable was drawing the source of your anger if possible. Writing, self-talk, talk, art, and music has proven in my experience to be more effective verses the other types of techniques offered. Exercise is also great. Running around the block, riding a bike, or going for a walk has proven helpful for eliminating anger for some individuals. Dance is great for relieving anger. Dance is a natural source of getting in touch with your feeling. If you ever wondered what the term she’s got soul means, well when you dance, feel the music and adhere to the steps of the beat then you got soul. There is nothing like the boogie fever since it relieves stress, tension, anxiety and makes your body and mind feel good since you did something constructive. If you must vent your frustration on something, get a punching bad, or else beat the heck out of your pillow. Some great advice came from health fitness experts when they advice me to enlist my child in Kick Boxing, Boxing, or Wrestling. This is said to teach the person control. Karate is another recommended source for helping a person deal with anger. The problem is when we are dealing with anger; we must get the other person to cooperate. Since most persons angered will find an excuse why the techniques provided to them does not work, it is important to get them to understand their anger, the problems and how the techniques can benefit them if they apply them selves. Crying is good for relieving stress and anger also; however, this is not always suitable for everyone. My children were raised understanding that it is ok to cry regardless of gender. Therefore, we need to teach our children regardless of gender that it is ok to express your emotions and feelings. That is not a disgrace; rather it is a developing of character strategy that works best for us all. Emotions when suppressed will create more problems for the people in society; therefore, it is important to address your feelings and emotions when they arise. Dealing with the problems when they arise is the best solution for dealing with emotions. Controlling your anger is not always easy, but it is possible.

When we are mad, we are consuming our energy and time on negative forces that may or may not prove results. Anger is an emotion that we all have and when we use anger to our advantage, it often takes us further than blowing up in an uproar. Anger that strikes, hits, punches, curses, assaults emotions and so forth are negative anger that causes more problems. Dealing with emotions and anger is never easy when we have probable cause to become ignited. When others hurt our feelings, attack our intellect, and take advantage of us it can upset anyone. We are facing problems that include, anger, prejudice, mental illnesses, substance abuse and crime everyday. However, negative anger can only hurt and rarely help anyone. For example, we can look back on September 11 when a group of men acting out on anger affected the entire world. Instead of resolving their problems, they added more problems to everyone’s life. See when you expose uncontrolled anger you are not only hurting your self you are hurting other people. Anger is increasingly causing more problems for our entire world. Since we are dealing with terrorist, serial murders, child and spouse abuse and other types of violence, we know that the world is heading for disaster unless someone comes up with the master plan to deal with all the anger surfacing the earth. We can see anger has interrupted many lives and continues as we engage in wars. We have professional leaders that are unable to deal with anger since when a problem occurs violence is the ultimate result. Looking back at September 11, we can see that anger played a large role on both sides. The terrorist from another country was mad and acted on their anger taking revenge and all this was based on a belief. The American government retaliated and now we are still fighting almost six years later and little was resolved. What if the leaders were able to negotiate and talk out their problems with each other? If both sides would have shown more responsible and maturity anger would not have caused the many problems it did in this event. We can ask is there a way that the problem could have been dealt with. Yes, there probably was, but anger took control. We can also look back in history and review the other wars that plagued our system. The wars always affect us all in some way. The anger that is issued by one party or group played a large role in everyone’s life. It affects the economy, the environment, parents, teachers, children and anyone that is touched by anger. If we are going to get ahead in life, we have to find a way that deals with anger on all individualities. Anger is a sign of mental illness, substance abuse and common society. Some of us act out violently while others of us find a more suitable way to deal with our problems. If we use anger positively we are sure to have a much more productive life. In a way, we all rely on each other whether it is directly or indirectly. If you have a problem with anger, there are anger management classes to rely on, or mental health experts waiting to help you deal with your anger. If you have substance abuse issues that contribute to anger then alcohol and drug classes are free of charge to help you learn how to deal with your stress and anger. The people that attend most these meetings have their own problems and have found a way to deal with them more effectively. Anger rules the world at this point since we are all touched by the violence that plagues our system, but if we all take the first step to dealing with our emotions and anger then our lives will benefit us all. If you know someone that is dealing with anger show the person some patients and help him or her find the help they need before it is too late. Remember negative anger consumes our time, burns our energy and often wastes our money.