For years, mothers have referred to the period of time between 4 and 7 p.m. as the hardest part of the day.  The reason?  That’s the time when children begin getting antsy, waiting for dinner to arrive.  Because they’re hungry, their nerves tend to be on edge, resulting in more fussiness.  It creates more work for the mother, as she must figure out a way to entertain the brood, while cooking dinner at the same time.

         Even if you don’t have children, meal time can be major stress time.  Your mate might become irritable while awaiting dinner, and you might be grumpy as well.  Hunger can be a powerful motivator, but it can also be the cause of major stress.  Sometimes, you might find it difficult to concentrate as your stomach is growling. 

        While cooking can be relaxing for some, it is a stressful enterprise for others.  There’s the pressure involved in making the recipe turn out right, each time.   If dinner proves disastrous, your entire night can be ruined.  It can be difficult to recover, once you’ve failed at preparing your evening meal.

        Although there might always be some stress associated with cooking dinner, it doesn’t have to be an overwhelmingly stressful event.  There are techniques you can use in order to better manage your stress, making dinnertime a pleasant event for the entire family.  If you put these techniques into practice, chances are your mealtime preparations will proceed much more smoothly.

        To begin with, you need to make sure that you have a relaxing atmosphere to work in.  This can mean turning on the radio or putting on your favorite CD.  Having music in the background—particularly soothing music—can make it easier for you to do your work in the kitchen.  If you have little ones, consider tiding them over with a healthy snack.  Also, you can occupy their time with a special video or game.  Another technique is to encourage them to join in the preparations.  They might be able to stir the soup or set the table.  Getting them involved in the action can help to alleviate their boredom, and can provide you with some extra set of hands besides!

         You might also consider making a few major meals on the weekend, when your time is more plentiful, and freezing them for use during the week.  A good stew or casserole might last you for most of the week, decreasing your mealtime stress considerably. 

          Some families have joined together in an effort to battle meal-time stress.  They’ve formed cooking clubs, enabling them to share the burden of preparing meals.  For instance, one family might be responsible for meals for a group of families during a given week.  The next week, it’s another family’s turn.  If you’re not used to preparing food for a large amount of people, this sort of system might not work.  However, if you like the idea of sharing the responsibility for meals—and the camaraderie that might result—such a cooking club may be the perfect fit for you.

           In some cases, you might have to lower your personal expectations in order to reduce your meal-time stress.  For instance, you might have to forget about cooking the nightly meal from scratch, and use prepared mixes from the grocery store instead.  Such convenience foods can save you a great deal of time and stress.  You can even enhance convenience foods by adding some of your own ingredients.

         Also, don’t be embarrassed about ordering take-out or having a pizza delivered every once in a while.  By having someone else do the cooking, you can reduce your stress level immeasurably.  While you might not be able to afford to make takeout a habit, having it every once in a while will probably not break your budget—and will help to maintain your sanity at meal time.

          At times, meal-time stress might be unavoidable.  However, with a little bit of planning, you can reduce the pressures you feel at dinner time.  If you’re finding the stress overwhelming, be sure to confide in a family member.  He or she might have other coping strategies to recommend to you.  Also, having a cup of your favorite beverage—such as tea or cocoa—right before meal time can help to relax you, enabling you to better manage the stress.  Try to make yourself comfortable, so that you can truly enjoy the dinner that results. 

When you are conquering anger, you are taking control of your life. We all lose control from time to time, but if anger is getting the best of you each time you are rejected, frightened, or interrupted emotional then there is obviously a problem existing. If you feel, you have a problem controlling your anger you might need anger management therapy or mental health services. You might even visit your doctor to see if a medical condition is not contributing to your anger. It depends on the person, but in most instances, we all deal with distresses, stress, and aggravation most of our lives. It is learning how to deal with it that counts. Anger is an emotion than can cause us more trouble that what existed causing the problem in the first place. Self-control is often needed if two or more people are involved in a conflict. If more than one person is angered in this group then problems will occur if both parties are striking out at each other. Problems often get deeper when anger bursts occur. When anger is controlling our society, we will always have crimes, abuse, violence, health issues, heart attacks, mental illnesses, and so forth. As you can see, nothing good comes from uncontrolled anger. After careful study the statistics of angry emotions has concluded that all of us have the ability to kill, harm, injure, or sabotage another person (s) life. When a person is angry is often a result of threatened emotions, such as hurt of our self-importance, rejections, difficult to deal with prospects, and antagonistic flight of the imaginations. Most of us are selfish and will often consider self rather than considering others first. When we do not get our way sometimes, we might blow a fuse and strike at the target that made us mad. Our actions often prove failure since it leads to more problems. If both parties are screaming at each other it often instills additional anger that builds up and remains there until the opportunity is available to blow another fuse. This goes on and on and nothing is resolved. Our countries have a higher divorce rate than ever and it is often because the couples could not come to a term of agreement. Now if one person out of each home is using their head in the heat of the moment then we have a hope. We can see in one example how anger got in the way and caused a major problem. A couple is off work for the day and the man is irritable and snaps as his wife. His wife looses her cool and shouts at the husband calling him a stupid jerk. She continues to scream at him telling him that he does not respect her and finally he looses his cool and joins in the screaming match. The two argue and scream at each other for short time and then the wife turns on her heels and storms in the bedroom slamming the door behind her. She yells through the door, by the way you are sleeping on the couch tonight jerk. Now if the wife would have said honey you seem irritable is there something I can do to ease your mind. Is there a problem we can work through together? What do you think would happen if the tables were turned and the wife approached the husband lovingly and offering her support? The couple would be sleeping together in their bedroom enjoying a peaceful rest most likely. We can look at another example were the anger is a little more out of control. For example, what if the wife is menstruating and she is irritable and her husband is tired of her rejecting him. Now he approaches his wife and calls her a selfish witch. She shouts at him and tells him he is not respecting her feelings, and he then starts shouting back at the wife. The wife gets mad at her husband and slaps him across the face, punching and kicking him as her anger increases. Now we see we got a serious problem in front of us, and one or the other is leaving because they are tired of the other. Now if the couple would have took a deep breath and stayed away from the other it might have proved effective later. However, if the husband would have been supported to his wife’s emotions during her monthly cycle we would most likely had good results and a problem on top of the existing problem would not exist. Uncontrolled anger is selfish and it hurts others, therefore we must all learn how to manage our anger and emotions.

 Courts are often misconstrued on criminals, and it often leads to destruction rather than recovery.
One man was taking to court for violent behavior, simply because another grabbed his girlfriend in an inappropriate on an area of her body, and he responded out of courtesy to her and to his traditions. Once he went to court, placed on probation, jail time, courts and fines, and after being evaluated by a professional, he claims that the professional said, “He did not have anger problems.” The man has a history of alcoholism, drugs, and child abuse. The counselor told him that he did not have anger problems; rather he had a problem with alcohol and drugs. Another source claims that he had issues, and they were never addressed appropriately, and that anger management classes only made him angrier. The problem with the first guy was that he was fighting for respect since this is how he was raised, and the courts ignored him. They focused on the money rather than understanding what he was dealing with and over dramatized the entire case. This happens every single time that a person goes to court. The courts automatically assume that a person has a problem once they commit a crime. The first man has never acted out violently in his history unless someone disrespected someone he loved. Therefore, he does not have anger problems; he has a problem that goes deeper than anger. The system is nothing more than a gimmick to earn money, and often will take full advantage of a single mistake. The man was an ex-marine that was taught to KILL and to fight, and yet he is not the one with anger. All he ever wanted was for people to leave him alone, and leave alone the ones that he loves. That is all he asks for, and so the ones with anger problem, are not the ones always sitting in an office being evaluated. Most anger problems are stemmed from another source and often this is ignored. They often do not see what the other person did to anger or provoke the person involved in the assault. Therefore, it is always placed on the victim rather than the perpetrator, and this would piss anyone off. The files of Cass County Michigan alone (Corrupted Police and Justice Systems) has hit the charts abroad the Internet, and this is often ignored, while the so-called criminals are hit with persecution for the rest of their lives. The problem then is not the individuals suffering with anger issues, it is the system that is ignoring the truths and subjecting the perpetrators and victims to control.  After carefully evaluating the first man spoken of in this article, I see that the person does not have an anger problem; rather he has symptoms far more complicated than what anger others have to offer. Let’s take a close look at anger and what it really means, before we diagnose another individual of anger problems.  The terms as illustrated in Webster Dictionary are “to make angry,” and/or “to become anger.”
As you can see, ANGER is a source triggered by another source. (This is by no means an excuse for anyone to abuse another person, as no one has that right). In most cases of Domestic Violence, the perpetrator has a serious mental illness that often includes Anger, but other circumstances are involved. This person was not a mental health issue, rather a victim of circumstance, and needs to address is denial of alcoholism. Anger management is controlling a source that is causing trouble. If you want to control sources, you need to address the many issues involved. There are many types of people in the world with various diagnoses, and often it is ignored. The controversy lies between acceptance and denial and someone has to deal with it, yet few ever do. The problem then is alcohol is the underlying source of anger in some cases, but the overlying problem is deeper than what most really want to address.  Anger is a problem but to understand the source you MUST address all underlying and overlying triggers and problems that are involved to deal with the problem.

When substance abuse is in existing then we are dealing with a mind that is shackled with anger. A person with an alcohol or drug problem often feels that the world has let them down. A person with alcohol or drug abuse often has difficult dealing with their emotions, anger and stress. When the person feels stress, they will often head to the liquor store or the nearby drug dealer for a fix. This is a temporary answer to the problem that adds more problems to the existing issues. Therefore, finding a more productive method for dealing with stress, emotions and anger is advisable. If you resort to alcohol or drugs for relief, you might want to realize that the world has more to offer you. Mental health services can go a long way since your problem is not directly the alcohol or drugs but an underlying source exists that links to the real problem. You probably lived a life and lacked development in your growth. You may even lack educational knowledge that helps you to see things in full light. You might even have a mental illness that is hindering your from living a productive lifestyle. We see then that alcohol and drugs is just another problem you added to problems already in existence. If you use your resources, you might see that doctors have medications that can help you to cope with stress or mental illnesses. You might even see that there are resources available, such as anger management, help groups, and so forth that can help you find a much more effective way to deal with your anger and stress. If you feel like the world is resting on your shoulders, then you might want to review your problems carefully. In many instances, a person has added problems to their life and is the root of their own behavioral issues. You will probably see that alcohol and drugs is playing a large part in how you behave in society. Alcohol usually makes us express our emotions freely without preservation. This opens us up to evil, since our perceptions, sound, and words are affected. This means you may misinterpret someone talking to you, flare up with anger, and possibly engage in a fight. Never take life for granted. If you believe that alcohol and drugs is the answer to your problems then you are on the road to destruction. Life is filled with problems and we all have to face them every single day. It is how you deal with the problems that enhance your success and coping abilities. If you have difficulty managing stress then you might want to review the triggers that ignite your emotions. For example, if you are visiting associations that adhere to negative living then you can see that new friends are needed. In fact, you will see that the association is not friends anyway. A good friend will not allow you to drive and drink, or take you to a bar if you already had too much to drink. A good friend will tell you to your face when you are doing something wrong and try to help you find a way to stop. Alcohol and drugs only increase your chances of exploding when your emotions are threatened. You might have probable cause to strike out, but in most cases, you do not have cause at all. I hope that this helps you to see that alcohol and drugs only increase anger’s chances of opening up and extending your problems. If you are an abuser then your path is marked, since if you are caught drinking and driving you will have more problems that what you already had. If you are taking drugs then you know that someday the police will knock on your door and ask you to step outside. Once those handcuffs go on, alcohol, drugs will be removed from the picture, and more problems will lead you to overwhelming stress, meaning you are adding something to what you could not face in the first place. There are people that care whether you can see it or not. You are not alone!

When we review the source of our anger, it often helps us to see the answers we missed when our emotions had control. Emotions are our makeup and they control our anger, sadness, joy and all other aspects of our thinking if we let it. If you are having difficulty managing your emotions, you most likely suffer anxiety, depression and become uncontrollable when your anger bursts. The best solution then is writing down your emotions and thoughts on paper and search for the triggers that interrupted your emotions. For example, I was involved in an incident that caused my mind’s image to break off into fragments. I am unable to review the entire episode that created the chaos in my head. The incident caused my nerves to shatter, which led to anxiety attacks and periodical depression episodes. I cannot cope with everyday life and I often try to avoid people to minimize the conflict in my life. I have flashbacks on occasions that upset my nerves and emotions and when someone triggers me, I want to strike out and hurt them as they have hurt me. We are dealing with posttraumatic stress disorder in this experience; therefore, we need a coping strategy that works best for us. We see that the anger is going to get the best of the individual if he or she does not find a way to control the emotions that causes an uproar leading to anger outbursts. First, this person cannot stand to be around loud noises so staying away from crowds is best for now. Finding a safe haven in your home and a quite environment often works best to prevent anger and stress outbreaks. You might want to take Ginkoba for alertness to help enhance your mind. You might even want to visit a mental health expert and ask for a prescription that helps deal with posttraumatic stress disorders. Trazadone is great for relieving nightmares and night sweats, which are symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder. Vitamin C and Vitamin B-Complex are also great to enhance the mind and help a person cope with stress. If you have difficulty focusing, which is another symptom included in the diagnose then you might want to focus on smaller tasks and move ahead to bigger tasks when you are ready. Learn to relax. Taking deep breaths before your emotions erupt is often good for dealing with anger. Yoga and exercise are great for helping the body and mind to relax. If you struggle with emotions its best to find out what works best for you and practice each day relaxing approaches to healing. It is important to pamper your self and avoid stress and stressors as much as possible. Remember you are at a greater risk of anger explosion more so than the common people in society are. The diagnose formally known as ‘war shock’ will take you boldly where no one will ever go. It is important to learn the symptoms and find a way to deal with it accordingly. Learning is growing and when your mind grows, it is developing a great survival strategy. Remember when you are overly stressed your body is affected gravely. Your diagnose puts you at a deeper risk, since anxiety and stress levels of posttraumatic stress disorder opens the door to heart attacks and strokes. Eventually you will need to face the trauma that put you in this state of mind. Therefore, I highly recommend that you write everyday. Role-playing is also great for these diagnoses and will reduce anger and emotions. Sit down in a comfortable area and pretend someone in the chair across from you loves you. The person has your best interest at heart. Now begin telling your imaginary friend the problems you are dealing with and what you are feeling inside. If you are feeling angry, tell the person how you feel and why you are feeling this way if possible. If you need to punch something soft, so you will not get hurt. Finally, vent all your energy and anger by vocalizing to your imaginary friend and when you finish review your scene carefully. Put the anger in review and take charge of your position when you see that your anger is not out of your reach.